Obscurity Knocks

Earnest, empathetic, industrious, unpretentious, gay Virgo in Milwaukee with a great life, amazing friends, and a wonderful family.

Tuesday, October 21, 2008


Well, like I haven't already had enough depressing news for one week. On top of the fact that I'm 35 and single, Miller Coors announced that it's discontinuing Zima. That's right, no more Zima. Mind you, I can't be too disappointed about this news since I haven't actually had a Zima since 1994, but it's still bad news because back in my college days, I enjoyed this "malternative" beverage from time-to-time. (Yes, I'm a flaming 'mo.) Every time my then-friend Doris opened a bottle, she'd proclaim in a high voice, "Ooooh, Zima!"
John M., Astro Michelle, Ruben, Mark, Kelly, Sarah French, and I were just talking about Zima last Friday over dinner at Bella's Fat Cat. I asked if anyone would drink a Zima with me sometime. Now I need to find some Zima on a close-out sale before it's consigned forever to my memory. Ooooh, Zima!

Sunday, October 19, 2008

Officially single...again

Well, I'm officially single again. Not by my choice, but because Bobby can't handle a relationship for a variety of reasons. It wasn't my decision, but I can see how it's for the best. I know what I want in life, and he's very confused about a variety of things. He's just not capable emotionally of handling a committed relationship at this time. I would have gladly made a long-term commitment to him. Actually, I had. He couldn't do the same.

The worst part for me is the loneliness that comes from being single. Even though I spend a lot of time with my wonderful friends and family, there's now a huge hole where Bobby used to be. I know that I'll be all right, but I really hate being single, especially at 35.

Friday, October 17, 2008

No Parking on the Dance Floor

"Excuse me, Madam. You're standing still in a no parking zone. If you don't get a move on that body, I'll be forced to give you a ticket. So get with it!"

I love this song, "No Parking on the Dance Floor" by Midnight Star. Many thanks to Lesley for re-introducing it to me a few years ago. It's so fun and exuberant. While I almost never go out dancing anymore, I would love it if they would play this song sometime when I'm at Mad Planet. Although I suppose that this song is too fun and non-alternative for that club. I'd love to see my friend Michelle dancing to this song, and I'd also welcome the opportunity to boogie to this song.

Wednesday, October 08, 2008

Milwaukee Lakefront Marathon

I ran the Lakefront Marathon on Sunday, finishing with my personal best time: 3 hours, 21 minutes, 19 seconds. I was able to shave 11 minutes off my prior PR. I'm quite pleased to have run my personal best. I finished 171st out of 2,011 total finishers. I was 30th of 174 in my division of men aged 35-39. I was 155th of 1,158 men who finished.

Marathons I've run:

1. San Francisco Marathon, 2005. 4 hours, 14 minutes.

2. Milwaukee Lakefront Marathon, 2005. 3 hours, 37 minutes.

3. Milwaukee Lakefront Marathon, 2006. 3 hours, 33 minutes.

4. Milwaukee Lakefront Marathon, 2007. 3 hours, 32 minutes.

5. Milwaukee Lakefront Marathon, 2008. 3 hours, 21 minutes.

I'm still a bit sore, but am feeling great.

Many thanks to my parents; Dave, Sara, and Abby; Kim K.; Michelle SD; John M; and JoAnn and Dale for being there to cheer me on.

Saturday, October 04, 2008

William or Harry?

William or Harry? Good question. This is the birthday card that Barbie gave me, knowing my interest in the British Royal Family and my crushes on both William and Harry. Is the question rhetorical? Or can it be answered? I'd like both, actually. If I had to answer it would depend on the circumstances. For a long-term relationship, I'd definitely pick William. He's more mature, stable, and would seemingly be the better husband of the two. Plus he earned a college degree. And he seems like a decent, nice, and caring guy. For one night or a weekend of passion, I'd definitely pick Harry. I'd guess that Harry is like a wild stallion in bed. And he has an amazing body. Plus this redhead (at least when I used to have hair) has never been with another redhead, so that would be interesting.

I'd be fortunate to have either one come my way.