Films I have rated 5 stars on Netflix

Films that I have rated 5 stars on Netflix:

The Age of Innocence (1993)
Airplane! (1980)
All About Eve (1950)
All the President's Men (1976)
Amelie (2001)
Annie Hall (1977)
Apollo 13 (1995)
Back To the Future (1985)
Being John Malkovich (1999)
Best in Show (2000)
The Best Years of Our Lives (1946)
Bowling for Columbine (2002)
The Bridge on the River Kwai (1957)
Brokeback Mountain (2005)
Bullets Over Broadway (1994)
Casablanca (1942)
Chariots of Fire (1981)
Chicago (2002)
Cinderella (1950)
Citizen Kane (1941)
Coal Miner's Daughter (1980)
The Color Purple (1985)
The Darjeeling Limited (2007)
The Departed (2006)
Dial M For Murder (1954)
Doubt (2008)
Down With Love (2003)
Dr. Strangelove or: How I Learned to Stop Worrying and Love the Bomb (1964)
Driving Miss Daisy (1989)
Elizabeth (1998)
Erin Brockovich (2000)
Everyone Says I Love You (1996)
Ferris Bueller's Day Off (1986)
For the Bible Tells Me So (2007)
Frost/Nixon (2008)
Funny Girl (1968)
Ghost (1990)
Gone With the Wind (1939)
Good Will Hunting (1997)
The Goonies (1985)
Gran Torino (2008)
Guess Who's Coming To Dinner (1967)
Hairspray (1988)
The Hours (2002)
The Hunt For Red October (1990)
Immortal Beloved (1994)
Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade (1989)
Interiors (1978)
It Happened One Night (1934)
Juno (2007)
Little Miss Sunshine (2006)
Madonna: Truth or Dare (1991)
The Manchurian Candidate (1962)
Manhattan (1979)
Manhattan Murder Mystery (1993)
Mary Poppins (1964)
Match Point (2005)
Milk (2008)
Miracle on 34th Street (1947)
Moulin Rouge (2001)
Mrs. Brown (1997)
Network (1976)
Nine to Five (1980)
North By Northwest (1959)
Notorious (1946)
Oceans Eleven (2001)
Ordinary People (1980)
Paths of Glory (1957)
Peter Pan (1953)
Pinocchio (1940)
A Prairie Home Companion (2006)
Pride and Prejudice (2005)
Psycho (1960)
The Queen (2006)
Rear Window (1954)
The Remains of the Day (1993)
Rope (1948)
The Royal Tenenbaums (2001)
Seabiscuit (2003)
Shakespeare In Love (1998)
Sicko (2007)
The Silence of the Lambs (1991)
Singin' in the Rain (1952)
Sixteen Candles (1984)
The Sixth Sense (1999)
Slumdog Millionaire (2008)
Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs (1937)
The Sound of Music (1965)
Star Wars Episode IV: A New Hope (1977)
Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back (1980)
Star Wars Episode VI: Return of the Jedi (1983)
Stranger Than Fiction (2005)
Sunset Boulevard (1950)
United 93 (2006)
Vertigo (1958)
Warm Springs (2005)
Wit (2001)
Young @ Heart (2007)

Mark-Paul Gosselaar

Damn, Mark-Paul Gosselaar looks mighty fine. What a hot man. He's much better looking now than during his "Saved By the Bell" days. Gotta love the chest hair especially. And he has a great sense of humor, as evidenced by his appearance earlier this year on "Late Night with Jimmy Fallon."

Screw you, voters in Maine

Fuck you, voters in Maine. Contrary to the Fourteenth Amendment of the U.S. Constitution, our government sat back and let yet another group of Americans vote on whether or not gay people deserve equal rights. We don't, say the people of Maine. I wonder how many rights other minorities would have if their "peers" were allowed to pick and choose. Let's face it, if civil rights were granted based on referenda such as this, there's no way that African Americans would have civil rights in the South.

How would any other group feel about their rights, guaranteed by the Fourteenth Amendment of U.S. Constitution, being put on the ballot for others to decide? It makes me sick.

The fight continues.

Fun video: gay TV characters

I am all about this video. Love it! Some thoughts on the clips shown:

1. What is this mini-series from 1984 called “Tommy Thompson’s Celebrity”? I’m sure that the Tommy Thompson who made the “Celebrity” mini-series in 1984 isn’t the same Tommy Thompson who was governor of Wisconsin. The scene shown is pretty amazing. I am going to see if it’s available on Netflix. Oh shucks, it’s not.
2. The “Dynasty” clip is funny even though I never watched that show. I was a “Knots Landing” fan, not “Dynasty”.
3. The “I’ll Take Manhattan” clip is AMAZINGLY AWESOME AND FANTASTIC. I love it, and it got me all hot and bothered. Oh, that shirtless blond guy with all that chest hair! And the other guy is pretty beautiful. I can barely stand it! But all the excellent sexual tension left me disappointed since the scene ends in a hug, a reminder that in 1987 they could have never gotten away with a gay kiss on network TV (or probably even cable). My mom had the paperback of Judith Krantz’s “I’ll Take Manhattan.” I remember reading it in 1988. It was the first time I had ever encountered anything with a gay love scene. I read and re-read the couple of pages involving the gay couple literally hundreds of times. Unfortunately, “I’ll Take Manhattan” has not been released on DVD. Nevertheless, it's in my Netflix queue for if it's ever released.
4. I remember watching the “Melrose Place” scene in college. It was so disappointing. Of course, Matt was the only celibate character on that show, which was completely unfair.
5. I never watched “Dawson’s Creek.” But this scene is nice, and at least they were allowed to show the kiss on TV. BTW – I do have an adult video entitled “Dawson’s Crack,” but that’s a different story.
6. Of course, I’m all about the “Desperate Housewives” scenes. Justin, Andrew Van de Kemp's lab partner/lover, was portrayed by Ryan Carnes, who is smoking hot.
7. I am all about “Brothers & Sisters,” especially since I know that Ruben can’t stand it. But you have to give the show credit for having gay characters – especially Kevin and Scotty – who got married in Season 2.

Enjoy.

IKEA commercials you won't see in the USA

Well, that happened

A few odd items to report:

- Last night an unknown woman with a 415 area code called and left a lengthy voice mail message for me. In Russian. To quote Lesley, "Thanks, Mercury retrograde."

- Today at the gym there was a guy shaving his legs in the shower. This might be common in a women's locker room, but I've never seen it in a men's locker room, and hope that I won't see it again.

- I saw a guy wearing a t-shirt that said, "Screw You."

A letter I mailed to 13 of my cousins

September 1, 2009

At the burial service for Senator Ted Kennedy, several of his grandchildren took turns speaking about their grandfather. I want to share what one of his grandchildren said with you:
"But what I will miss the most are the times I woke up at 6:30 a.m. and would go to the front porch where my Grandpa would be sitting with Splash [his dog] and gazing out to sea. It would be just us on the porch for a while and we talked and talked, and I would get a feeling that the world was just right. It was me and him sitting on his porch watching a new day unfold."
I found these sentences moving and poignant. We could substitute a few words and say, "Where Grandpa would be sitting with his cup of coffee and gazing out into yard." Or "Where Grandma would be sitting with her cup of coffee and waiting for her babysitting kids to arrive." You get the picture.

I broke down in tears when I heard this reflection because it is so true. We all have many memories of Grandma and Grandpa, and many of them involve activities (fishing, baking cookies, going to Roy Lake, playing whist, etc.). Those activities were so much fun and were very memorable, but what I miss most of all is just being with Grandma and Grandpa and having a conversation with them. They would call it visiting. Oh, how I would love the opportunity to visit with them again.

I miss them every day, and am sure that you do, too. I miss all of the wisdom, kindness, and love that they shared with us. What a gift Grandma and Grandpa were to us. What a gift they continue to be for us.

Your cousin,
Steve

I'd rather irritated that only one of the 13 acknowledged receiving my letter, which I went via US Mail, not email. Oh well.

Popular names 2008 compared to 1973

The Social Security Administration tracks the popularity of names. You can see the most popular names from 2008 and, by way of comparison, from 1973, the year I was born.

For 2008 I like all the boy names except Alexander and Anthony. On the girls side, they all seem pretty decent except I can't stand Madison. Why is that name so popular? It's the surname of the fourth president of the United States and the capital city of Wisconsin - not the first name of a girl. To my thinking, Madison just isn't a girl's name, but I guess I'd better get used to it since there are lots of girls named Madison.

I can tell that I'm getting older because I generally prefer the 1973 names to the 2008 ones. Before seeing the 1973 list, I predicted that Jennifer and Amy would be at the top since there were always tons of Jennys and Amys in my classes from kindergarten through college. In college, If I couldn't remember a girl's name, I'd always guess Jennifer or Amy, and oftentimes, I'd be right.

Steven was #20 in 1973. In my lifetime, Steven peaked at #18 and 1975, and has been declining in popularity ever since. For 2008 it ranks #104 after being #46 in 1998. You can look this up at the Social Security popular baby names site.

More Travis Rettenmaier

A few more photos of Travis Rettenmaier.

Travis Rettenmaier

Seeing these hot photos of doubled specialist Travis Rettenmaier makes me even more excited to be heading to New York for the US Open on Wednesday. Man, is Travis hot! I want to pull those white tennis shorts off and run my hands over his hot, ripped, hairy chest.

Wah-wah

Three weeks ago, I made nine CDs and sent them to Paul, my college roommate who has lived in Alaska since we graduated from college in 1995. Today Paul emailed me that he had them in a rental car on a recent trip and they were stolen. Wah-wah. So now my iMac will get all irritated that I have to re-burn those nine discs.

Paul and I met the first day of college when he sat in front of me in Spanish 001. He was wearing a Morrissey t-shirt with the photograph from the cover of the "Ouija Board, Ouija Board" single. I knew right away that we'd hit it off given his great taste in music. So much of the music from those days brings me back to fun times with Paul.

The list of bands we both love is a long one, but ones that come to the top of my head include Morrissey, The Smiths, Electronic, New Order, The Ocean Blue, The Trash Can Sinatras, The Judybats, Pet Shop Boys, 10,000 Maniacs, The Church, Riverside, Material Issue, and School of Fish. Well, the list could go on and on.

Mr. Benfield

During this back to school time, I found myself thinking about my sixth grade teacher, Mr. Benfield. I uncovered this letter to the editor that I wrote about Mr. Benfield back in 1995. Reading the letter 14 years later, the parable part at the end is a bit heavy-handed, but the rest holds up pretty well. I wonder of Mr. Benfield is still living. I hope so. He played an important part in my life.


November 10, 1995

Teacher Stories
Herald Times Reporter
902 Franklin Street
Manitowoc, Wisconsin 54220

Dear Sir/Madam:

When I read the call for stories about outstanding teachers, I immediately thought of Mr. Kenneth Benfield. I was privileged to be a student in Mr. Benfield's sixth grade class during the 1984-1985 school year. While that experience is now more than ten years old, the lessons I learned from Mr. Benfield at Andrew Jackson School have had a tremendous impact on my life.

Mr. Benfield had earned a reputation as an ardent disciplinarian, and his students quickly discovered that he lived up to that reputation. Soon after beginning the sixth grade, our class came to understand that Mr. Benfield expected much from us. Assignments were to be completed on time, and there were no excuses for late or incomplete work. This came as a shock to many of us, since up until this time we had not been held accountable for our work. If your assignment was not completed on time, you had to write for Mr. Benfield. This writing was referred to as "sides." Mr. Benfield would say, "Give me five sides on how your assignment should be finished on time." In addition, late or missing work resulted in the loss of recess privileges. For 11 and 12 year-olds, not being able to join our friends at recess was generally motivation to reform our ways. I remember that when he would correct spelling tests, Mr. Benfield often used a magnifying glass to determine whether or not a student's writing was off the line. In short, Mr. Benfield demanded excellence in all things. Anything less was not satisfactory.

Mr. Benfield believed in personal responsibility. If you made a mistake, you had to face the consequences of your mistake, and hopefully learn something from the experience. He was always fair - he never had "pets" and he did not single out anyone unless he or she deserved it. For this, all of us respected him. He also possessed a wonderful sense of humor, and at the appropriate times, we had a great deal of fun.

So much of Mr. Benfield's teaching translates to life
outside the sixth grade:

If excellence is expected, excellence can be achieved.

There are consequences for all your actions that you must be responsible for.

Live your life with a sense of values.

You will have to work hard to attain success in life.

You must be dedicated to your work.

Life is not always easy, but with perseverance you will find fulfillment.

While being instructed about sentence structure and how to multiply and divide fractions, I was learning something more important - how to live a meaningful and value-filled life.

There is a parable where one person builds a house without a foundation and another digs deep, lays a foundation on rock, and then builds her house on this foundation. Mr. Benfield helped his students to dig deep foundations, so that the structure we later built could be sturdy enough to last a lifetime. The lessons I learned from Mr. Benfield are the rock, the foundation on which I have built my life. I am proud to say that I was Mr. Benfield's student, and I hope he knows that becuase of him, I am a better person.

Sincerely,
Steven F.